Wow! We’re already five weeks into the new year, and this week for the blog challenge we’re talking about best friends.
My best friend is my husband.
Yep! That’s always my first reaction when someone – an acquaintance, my son or daughter, or a blog challenge coordinator – asks.
Love vs. Friendship
And I’ve been thinking about this recently, even before the MFRW blog challenge topic came up. An author friend of mine posted a meme to Facebook last week with this quote from Friedrich Nietzsche:
It’s not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes for unhappy marriages.
As someone hitting thirty-five years with the same spouse, I think this is really true. And, as a romance author and reader, it’s an interesting concept to consider. How you feel about Nietzsche’s statement might impact the types of romances that resonate with you.
Friends to Lovers, Enemies to Lovers
One popular romance trope is “friends to lovers”–two friends who grow in emotional intimacy and commitment and realize that they’ve crossed over to the spiritual, physical unity of romantic love. I like those, though I’ve never written one.
Another trope could be called “enemies to lovers”. All romances need a good conflict, but I love watching characters start out as serious enemies, learn to respect each other, and become allies, friends, and lovers.
Our courtship didn’t fit either romance trope, but heck, this is real life!
Here I am at Christmas with my best friend, ugly sweater and all. (I accommodate his privacy concerns by cutting off his head on a regular basis, LOL!)
What do you think? What should come first, romance or friendship? Friendship or romance?
This post is part of a blog hop, so hop along with my fellow MFRW authors and see what they have to say about this topic.
Image credits: Wikimedia and the author