This week’s MFRW Author Blog Challenge Topic is
Life Lessons in My Books
Last year, Mary Balogh spoke at the Historical Romance Retreat (amazing little reader conference, btw) about one of the important themes of her romance novels. It was an aha moment for me. It’s a theme I love and try to emulate (that sounds so much better than copy) and one of the reasons why I love Mary Balogh’s writing.
What theme, you ask? Romantic love brings not just two people together, but two families.
Bring in the In-laws
Romantic love has a better chance to bloom when the extended family is on board with the relationship.
Some Other Lessons
One of the challenging aspects of plotting a romance is finding a way to achieve an authentic black moment for the relationship. In many of the stories I read, one party takes offense for what seems to me no good reason; an honest conversation would (to me) solve everything. Thus the title of this blog–talking is just as important as all the smooching, though I suppose in some instances that would leave us with no conflict and thus no story.
- People are not always what they seem
- What you think you want isn’t always what you need
- For a relationship to work, one has to risk being vulnerable
And then, if I may just add, I do so hate the notion that women were downtrodden victims. In times past, women’s and men’s roles may have been more tied to biological realities than in the present, but even in patriarchal settings, there have always been strong and capable women and men who understood and appreciated them. I don’t think there’s anything “modern” about that!
This is a blog hop, so hop along with my fellow MFRW Authors and see what life lessons they share.